Vlog: Chronic Illness and Food and Unwelcomed Advice: Have The Confidence To Do What's Right For You

Do you have chronic health issues?

Do people give you a hard time or joke about how you eat?

Or, do they give you advice about what you should be eating instead?

I've had people comment  on cranberry juice.  I mix a medication with it.  They say, Oh, but all that sugar!  I get the 100% cranberry juice and mix it with water to get about 33% juice so it's not so strong.  It has no added sugar and about 9 grams of sugar total, compared to other brands that have much higher amounts of added sugar.  So, I'm promoting urinary system health and drinking a healthier version of cranberry juice in order to do so.  Some people choose to take cranberry supplements, but I just haven't taken to them.  

Green tea is another drink I get advice on.  It's so good for you!  I have been advised by my doctor, though, to limit green tea for health reasons (high blood pressure and osteoporosis, if my memory serves me correctly.  It's been awhile since I was told.  I'm not crazy about green tea--or any tea, really--anyway, so I just filed it in the "do not consume" column in my brain and that was that).  

Protein, too.  When I was working with trainers at the gym years ago, they showed some concern over the fact that I'm supposed to eat a low protein diet to help maintain kidney health.  They were respectful of it, but let me know that, without boosting my protein, I wouldn't be growing too much muscle.  They could work with what I had to firm things up, but not much was going to be built beyond that without extra protein.  I still eat fish, chicken and some pork, as well as other sources of protein without really measuring how much I take in. But, I don't take protein supplements. My test results are consistently within acceptable range using this method, so I must be doing something right.  

Get educated about your health issues, your body, and do what is right for you.

There is so much information available online and off.  If you have any questions about what you should and should not be eating, consult reliable sources for answers:  your doctor--or a team of doctors, registered dietician, respected, peer-reviewed medical journal articles, scientific studies, and others.   Choose wisely and make sure to back it up.

Have the confidence to eat what you need to and go without what you have to in order to take care of yourself.  Please don't feel guilty or weird for not taking others' advice when it could compromise your health.  It doesn't matter what Joe down the street does.  It doesn't matter what Molly from work eats.  We each have our unique nutritional needs.  

Briefly explaining it to the person who is giving advice or ribbing you about your food choices might help to educate them help them to better understand where you are coming from and get them off your back.  That is completely up to you.  It's your body.  It's your life.  It's your decision what to share and what not to share with others no matter the nature of your relationship.

If you have any questions or comments for me, leave them in the comments below or email me at amy@acnlifecoach.com.  Please note, though, that I am not a physician or registered dietician, so I cannot give medical advice.  See you back here next Sunday.  Have a great week!

The Twilight Zone: Loneliness and Exhilaration During Life Transition

Hey there!  I was hoping to get this post in last night, but it didn't happen.  I'm sorry about that.  Fighting another cold.  I just had a cold that hung on for five weeks starting in mid-November.  So, I am less than pleased about starting it all over again.  Hopefully this one doesn't last as long.  My husband had round two as well and it only lasted a short time.  Crossing fingers.  I'm not filming a video this time around since I'm not feeling up to it.  I'll resume videos when I feel better.

Now, onto the subject of this week's post.  

The definition of "lonely" is:  being without company or being cut off from others.

The definition of "alone" is:  separated from others.

There's a big difference between being alone and being lonely.  I love my alone time and generally prefer it to socializing, except with my closest friends.  Lonely is another story.  Lonely feels draining and isolating and even frightening.  With the changes that have taken place in the last couple years, I find myself both cherishing alone time to contemplate my life and what I want it to be going forward (including who I want to in my life and who I don't) and feeling uneasy about the changes that have occurred so far, and yes, feeling lonely.  It is difficult, yet necessary, to go through these life transitions.  They can force us to be real and teach us a lot about ourselves.

Do you feel lonely even surrounded by people?

Do you love being alone but also long for deep connections with a select few, or even one person?

Are you going through a tough transition in your life where you feel as if you have lost your safety net:  your friends, family, confidantes, and others?  By choice or not, or a bit of both?  

Do you feel alone in the gut-wrenching negative sense even though you love alone time?

Do you feel as if you are disoriented?  

Do you feel as if this change, however unsettling, was needed in order to make valuable changes to your life that can help you start fresh?

Do you feel that there is a purpose to this process and that it will turn out right in the end?

I can answer "yes" to all the above questions.  How about you?  Consider these questions as they relate to your life and personal transition.  

For me, the transition was a bit by choice and a bit not at all.  And it rocked my world.  I tell my husband that it feels like living in the twilight zone.  That may be an exaggeration, because some pretty cool stuff has happened too, but so many things have changed in the last couple of years that it does feel like the twilight zone sometimes.  

But I do feel there is a purpose for this change.  I needed this shake up to make the changes that will lead me to the life I was meant to live.

It is excruciatingly difficult to go through something like this, yet it is so vital to you. To honor your truth.  To be who you are and to be who you are meant to be.  You have to follow your truth in order to be happy and healthy and live a meaningful life.  Following others down their path doesn't work, and your gut will tell you so if you listen closely.  You'll feel uneasy, off, tired, awkward, bored, unfulfilled.  Your essential self, as Martha Beck discusses in her book, "Finding Your Own North Star," will throw a fit and it will do you very well to listen to it.  It knows what you need.

It could get messy and be very uncomfortable, and lonely, and unorganized, as I can attest being in the middle of it myself, but all that stuff is part of the process of becoming who you were meant to be.  

So, what can you do to make it through the process?  Cry, scream, complain, mourn, rest, eat healthy, eat what you want to just because you want to once in awhile, but also celebrate that you are taking charge of your life and making the changes that are most dear and most real to you.  Those changes you need to make and that feel so right you can't quite believe it's taken this long to make them.

What can you do to make the process less uncomfortable and scary?

• Feel your feelings, don't try to snuff them out or bury them deep within.  Journal about those feelings, related thoughts, actions you've taken and actions you plan to take.  Anything that you need to get out, organize, and process.
• Reach out to a coach, a counselor, or a therapist for support.
• Confide in a friend or family member who you are super close to and can trust.
• Join local support groups through your faith organization, hospital or other community agencies, or start your own.
• Join Facebook groups for loners and the lonely.
• Know that, though you feel lost and lonely and confused, you are not truly alone.  There are people who can help you.  There are people who have been down the path you are following and succeeded at finding the life they have always wanted, a meaningful life.  Reach out to those people who resonate most to you.  Reach out to agencies as well.  To helper who can guide you and support you through this difficult, yet necessary, and yes, even exciting (it can fill you with trepidation as well as pure joy to follow your true path), time in your life.
• And always remember, you have your inner voice, your inner guidance system, to steer you toward your truth.  Relying on yourself is the best way to find and live the life you were meant to live.  A fulfilling life.  The life you have always wanted.  Trust yourself, honor yourself, believe in yourself, and then, others will come into your life who can help you live that life you were meant to live.  Again, go with your gut, search for and accept help from those who you feel have your back and are trustworthy.
• It takes guts to do what you are doing.  Rely on yourself and select others to do it.
• And celebrate your turning from a caterpillar to a butterfly, living your truth in vibrant color.

I'd love to hear your stories of life transition or help you to build confidence to begin your own life transition.  Comment below or email me at amy@acnlifecoach.com.  Have an amazing, transformative week!

Vlog: Make Decisions With Confidence

Our thoughts, feelings, reactions--all influence our decisions.

Regarding our health, job, friendships, education, marriage, starting a family, bringing home a new pet, divorce, separation, a large purchase, a big move--big decisions--it is important to make them with confidence.

To gain that confidence, do the research.  

• What does your gut say?
• Is it right for you?
• Does it seem meaningful?
• Does it seem like a weight is lifting off your shoulders just thinking about it?
• Does it excite you?  Or, at least, does it give you some relief?
• Is it practical--can you afford it?
• Will it bring financial hardship?
• If so, how can you prepare ahead of time to ease the burden?
• Who can help?
  

These are just some of the questions to ask yourself.  I'm sure you can come up with others specifically suited to your situation.  Answering them will help you get clear on what you want, what's at stake and how you can move forward in a healthy, meaningful, and productive manner.

Are you faced with an important decision?  Do that research.  Listen to your gut. 

Or, have you made an important decision in the past?  What happened?  Did you tackle it with confidence?  

• Did it not turn out so well?  If so, what did you learn from the experience? 

or

• Did you succeed beyond your wildest dreams?  What have you done to keep up that momentum? 

I'd love to hear your experiences with decision making, and particularly how it was connected to your confidence level.   

Have an amazing week.  I'll catch you back here next Sunday.  Take care.

Vlog: Two Reasons To Celebrate

Hey there!  I hope you had a happy Valentine's Day weekend.  I like to think of it as a day (or weekend) to celebrate love of all types in our lives, not just romantic love.

If you have recently lost a loved one special occasions such as Valentine's Day can be tough.  I hope you have a strong support system to help you through this difficult time.

In other news, I finished my Amazon Associate links page on my website.  I worked all week on it and it now ready for viewing.  Check it out--> www.acnlifecoach.com/affiliate-links.  Let me know what you think.  And, if you have a suggestion for a product you would like me to include on my links page, let me know and I will consider it.  I welcome your input.  

Oh, one thing about my website:  mobile is not working great.  I will be doing some revisions on my site this week, so hopefully I'll be able fix the glitches.  If not, I will call tech support.  Thanks for your patience.

Have a great week.  Be open to new discoveries, laugh out loud fun, and quiet moments of contemplation.  See you back here next week.

Vlog: New Coaching Direction

Hey there!  I hope you're having a good week so far.  I'm here to talk about my new coaching direction.  (Video coming soon.)

I have concentrated on various coaching specializations in the past:

• chronic health issues
• special needs
• friendship
• teens
• individuals in business with chronic health issues
• and so on

I am now specializing in confidence coaching.  And, I have brought the arts in as coaching tools.

I am so excited about this!  With confidence, you can do anything.  Anything!!!  And, I have decided to utilize the arts as coaching tools because I have used the arts for as long as I can remember to help me through crises, and other unpleasant times in my life.  There is nothing like the arts to boost your spirits and gain insight.  And, don't worry, you don't have to be super artsy to use the arts in coaching.  You just have to be curious and willing to give it a whirl.  If it's not for you, no problem.  We can design your coaching sessions based on what works best for you.  Arts is just one of the tools available.       

The cool thing about my new coaching specialization is that it includes all of the above individuals and niches and more.  No matter what your circumstance, age, gender, social status, health status, work status and so on, you probably have dealt with confidence issues at one time or another.  We all do.  A lack of confidence can be numbing.  It can stop us dead in our tracks.  I know that especially when I was a teen navigating life with spina bifida, my confidence was at rock bottom.  I know how it feels to be there:  to feel like you don't fit in,  to be afraid of rejection, to not want to try something for fear of failure.  It feel horrible.  

That's why I decided to focus on being a confidence coach.  I want to help you get out of your own way, boost your confidence, and live the life of your dreams--a more meaningful life; a more satisfying life; a life of purpose.  I truly get goosebumps thinking about it.  It feels amazing to have found my purpose, and I would love to help you increase your confidence so you can move forward, do the things you have always wanted to do, go to the places you have always wanted to go, and live the life you were meant to live.

If you have any questions about my coaching services, don't hesitate to contact me:  amy@acnlifecoach.com.  For more information on my new coaching direction and how the arts fit into coaching, check out my website's FAQ page.  I also offer a 45-minute free session where you can ask questions, share what you'd like to be coached on, and get to know me and my coaching style a bit more.    Let's talk!

Vlog: Nature As Inspiration For Change

Hello!  I hope your week is starting out well.

Nature is always changing.  It's growing, it's alive.

Sometimes this happens very subtly so we can't even tell it's happening, while other times, such as in the case of tornadoes, earthquakes, wild fires, and hurricanes, it happens suddenly and violently.

That's us, too.  Sometimes we fight change and other times it comes easier.

You can go out in nature and find a quiet spot and think and heal and grow and have a-ha moments.

You can meditate, pain, draw, dance, laugh, cry, scream.

It can revitalize you.

The fresh air, the movement of your physical body, your heart and soul awakening.

It can energize you--give you the energy and the knowledge, and the self-awareness to make meaningful changes to your life.

What is your experience with nature?  Is it healing for you or do you have another way of tackling tough decisions, solving problems, and finding peace?

All the best!

I'm Back!: An Introduction

Hi everyone!  I'm back!  I'm so excited to start blogging again!  

First of all, thank you to my followers who stuck with me during the break even though I didn't post anything new.

And, thank you and welcome to those of you who recently started following my blog.  I'm glad you're here and hope you find my posts valuable.

I plan to write on a variety of topics related to confidence building, and also how the arts can serve as valuable tools to help bring about meaningful change in our lives.

Feel free to join in on the conversation, ask questions, and suggest topics for future posts.  I'd love to hear from you!

Okay, that's it for this time.  I hope you're having an amazing weekend.  I'll be posting again in the next couple of days.  Take care!