Showing posts with label lifecoaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lifecoaching. Show all posts

Monday, April 16, 2018

Vlog: Service Dogs/Assistance Dogs



Service dogs can provide help to people with vision problems, hearing problems, and other disabilities.

Do you have one?

Do you need one?

Are you contemplating getting one?

I looked up the law and it didn't require a vest for the dog.  I thought that was odd.  It would seem that people would have less trouble with a service animal being in a store or restaurant if the animal was obviously a service animal.  Otherwise, anyone could say the animal was a service animal and it could simply be their pet that they didn't want to leave alone at home or in the car.

The Americans with Disabilities Act states that people with disabilities are allowed public access rights for their specially trained assistance dogs.  Anywhere. 

There are rules, though.

  •  the dog must be well-behaved and under control, on a leash or harness
  • the dog must be well-groomed
  • the person is responsible for the dog including cleaning up any messes, keeping the dog under control, and paying for any damage the dog does
  • the dog must be trained to perform one or more tasks for the person
Business owners are allowed to ask only two questions of a person with a dog coming into their business:
  • Is that your pet?
  • What does the dog do for you?
What business owners can't ask:
  • What is your disability?
  • For proof of disability
  • For proof of where the dog was trained
How to get a service dog
  • Get a letter from your doctor stating that you are disabled under the American Disabilities Act.
  • You need to know what you need help with so the dog can be specifically trained for that purpose.
  • You must be willing to wait for the dog to be trained.
  • Pay about $25,000 for a professionally trained dog.  You can train your own dog, too, though.
Emotional support dogs
  • Can live with you in housing where dogs aren't allowed without paying an extra fee.
  • Can fly with you without additional fees.
  • Any dog can be an emotional support dog and they don't have to be specially trained.
  • It's a good idea to get a vest or tag, though, to save the hassle of explaining the dog's presence everywhere you go.
  • Some conditions you can have a support dog for are: anxiety, phobias, eating disorders, and suicidal thoughts/tendencies.
  • Consult your doctor for information on how to go about getting an emotional support dog.

More information:
  • Even if a business posts a "no pets" sign, service dogs are allowed.
  • Business owners cannot charge a maintenance fee for allowing the dog to enter.
  • The dog isn't required to wear a vest, but it is recommended 
  • https://www.officialservicedogregistry.com/register-your-emotional-support-dog/
What do you think of the fact that emotional support dogs don't have to be trained?  I think that's kind of odd.  I wouldn't want just any dog in the store.  If they don't like the scent of someone, or another trained dog comes along, the untrained dog could cause a lot of trouble.


Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Vlog: Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence



I got to thinking about self-esteem and self-confidence the other days.  I've heard them used interchangeably but felt as if they weren't quite the same.  I was right.


Self-esteem is:
  • how you generally feel about yourself
  • how much you like/love yourself
  • your overall view of who you are
  • influenced by past experiences and the surroundings you were raised in
  • influenced by family, school, friends, and community

How can you improve it?
  • surround yourself with positive people who believe in you
  • look inside and come to terms with your past
  • leave unhealthy relationships
  • forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made
  • be good to yourself (exercise, eat healthfully, get good sleep)
  • do things you enjoy (hobbies, sports, interests)
  • write down things you like about yourself
  • learn something new (take classes, listen to podcasts, etc.)
  • do what you love and are good at for work
  • realize you are good enough
  • stop blaming others for what they have done to you
  • stop worrying about what others think
  • stop trying to please others
  • say no to things you really don't want to do.  Say yes to what makes your heart sing
  • stop trying to compete with others.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses.  Concentrate on your goals, no one else's.
  • live your life your way without apology

Sef-confidence is:
  • how you feel about your abilities
  • how you view your capabilities to do things and handle a job or emergency, for example
You may be more confident at skiing than working with computers.  Or, dancing versus math.  Or, driving may not be one of your strengths, but you are an excellent speaker.


How can you improve self-confidence?
  • get out of your comfort zone
  • try something that scares you a little
  • test yourself
  • try a new job--maybe volunteer there first to see if you like it
  • hang out with positive people who will challenge you in a good way
  • boost your independence
  • become your own advocate
The more you challenge yourself--step out of your comfort zone--the more you will become comfortable doing these new things and making decisions.  Building self-confidence self-esteem!

How do you building your self-esteem and self-confidence?  Who in your life has helped you do so?  

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Vlog: Personality Tests



Hi!  I love taking personality tests to see what the results are.  They are usually pretty spot on, or just a bit off.  

Here are three that I've taken:

Myers-Briggshttps://www.mbtionline.com.  You can take this assessment.  It takes about 15 minutes and has 93 questions.  It costs $49.95 to get started.  You can download your personality type summary report.  The assessment helps you identify your preferred way of doing things in four areas:

  • directing and receiving energy
  • taking in information
  • making decisions
  • approaching the outside world
It helps you have a better idea of what makes you tick and how that affects all areas of your life.  How you communicate, your career, relationships, decision-making--personality has a part in it.  Knowing your personality can help you navigate your world more effectively and make better choices.  You may also be able to tweak the areas that aren't to your liking.

There are 16 personality types.  My Myers-Briggs personality is INFJ, which is the rarest type.  It stands for:

  • Introverted:  Reserved and quiet.  Limited social interactions.
  • Intuition:  Focusing on the big picture.
  • Feeling:  Going with your gut.
  • Judging:  Prefer planning and early decision-making to last minute decisions.
Enneagramhttps://www.enneagraminstitute.com  (test code required costs $12)  and http://www.9types.com/rheti/index.php (free)

There are nine distinct personality types.  Each number on the enneagram stands for a type.  You might see a bit of yourself in each type but there usually is a dominant one in each of us.  There are also Wings which branch off from the main personality.  

The Nine personality types are:
  • The Reformer
  • The Helper
  • The Achiever
  • The Individualist
  • The Investor
  • The Loyalist
  • The Challenger
  • The Peacemaker
I am The Enthusiast.  I'll take it!  I thought for sure I would get The Helper since I've always wanted to help people, but it was not the way this one turned out.


This quiz helps you determine if you are an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.

Upholders:  Meet inner and outer expectations
Questioners:  Meet inner expectations, Resist outer expections
Obligers:  Meet outer expectations, resist inner expections
Rebels:  Resist inner and outer expections

Knowing which personality you are can help you understand your own behaviors and preferences and those of the people around you.  

I am an Obliger with a smidgeon of Questioner.  And if I oblige, oblige, oblige and get stonewalls or put off one too many times, I become an Obliger-Rebel.  My husband is a Questioner with a smidgeon of Oobliger in him and he considers himself a bit of a Rebel, too.  So, we have all the same tendencies, but a different one is the dominant one for each of us.

Are you game to take any of these personality tests?  Have you done so in the past?  If you have, were you surprised at the results, or were they pretty spot-on?  How has your personality helped or hindered you in regards to managing your chronic health issues, and making friends?  

Feel free to share your results in the comments below, or email me at amy@acnlifecoach.com.