Do you tend to try to get others to do what you think they should do? This could be fixing a lock on a gate or replacing a small appliance that has been sitting around unusable for months. Or it could be that you think your husband or sibling should go to college or get a better job. Step back a minute. Could it be that what you're actually doing is chiding yourself for not doing those things?
Do your best to stop worrying about what others are or are not doing, and concentrate on what you really want out of life. Pay attention to what you're doing. Do what you want to do, whether it's starting a business, going back to school, learning to change a car tire, taking a CPR class, marrying, divorcing, having a child, or quitting your job.
Do you find yourself harping on other people who don't do what you think they should be doing? What was their reaction? What did it tell you about yourself? What did you learn from the experience?