Vlog: Reacting Out of Fear

• Do you avoid doing things like trying a new activity or traveling?
• Do you lash out at friends and relatives?
• Do you avoid going out in public or hanging out with friends?
• Do you think of everything that could go wrong?

Why?

Is it that you are afraid?  And, if so, what are you afraid of?

• That you will look foolish?
• That you will make a mistake?
• That you will get hurt?
• That your parents or spouse--your rock, your primary sources of support--will die?
• That you will never have any friends?
• That your spouse will leave you because he/she is tired of the medical bills and health crises?
• That you can't keep up with others?
• That your parents will give up on you?  Not let you try anything else because you failed?  So you won't even try.
• That you'll lose a friend over your disabilities?  Your friends will get tired of you?
• That your surgery won't go well?
• That you will die from your health problems?

I get it.  I've been there.  It's a desperate feeling.  

So, what can you do about it?

• Be honest with yourself
• Communicate your concerns to others

Be honest about what you feel and why.  Why are you lashing out?  Why are you concerned that you'll never have friends?  Then act to solve the problems, ease the stress, and calm down.  You can do that by communicating with those people who are associated with that feeling of fear.  You may also consider consulting your health care provider if your fear is getting in the way of your living your life, going about your daily routine. 

Do you react out of fear?  Have you been able to reduce those fears?  If so, how?  If not, try the suggestions above.  And, let me know how it goes.  Thanks.  Take care.