Vlog: Tired of Competing? Tired of Fighting?

Do you have chronic health issues?  Are you tired of competing?  Tired of fighting?

• For jobs
• For attention from your spouse, kids, relatives, friends, coworkers
• For love, dates
• Job promotions
• Spots on a team or committee
• For grades
• For college acceptance
• For rights
• For adaptations

Are you competing with other people in your spouse's life?

• Are you jealous of the attention given to friends?
• Do you feel like you're not enough?
• That they like others more than you?
• That they regret committing to you now that they have found others they prefer to hang out with?  That they click with others better?

Also, are you trying to please?

Stop!

You're in the wrong relationship, friendship, or job if you're trying to please, perhaps.  Only you can decide that.

You're putting yourself last.

It's hard work to compete.  To fight.

You feel insecure.

Get out.

You need to be you!

Live your life the way you see fit.

Do the things you love to do.

Go where you want to go.

Say what needs to be said.

Walking or wheeling on eggshells isn't worth it.

You've got a lot to give.

Give it to the people, activities, jobs...that mean the most to you.

If your friend, partner, spouse, doesn't appreciate you, or has become tired of you, distant, or seems to be replacing you, let them.  If you have tried everything and still the relationships or friendships seems to be dying, let it die naturally.  No fits, or arguments, or scenes.  Just let it play out naturally.

If your employer is constantly setting up roadblocks and treating you unfairly.  Fight them or leave them, but do what is best for you.

You can only do so much.  You have to concentrate on you, your health, what brings you joy.  That is your choice.  And it's their choice whether to take that ride with you or not.